Gift opening. Ugh. My initial reaction, to be honest. I’ve been back and forth on this so many times! Do we really want to do one? Do we have to? Why would we do one? Who would we invite? There’s nothing that is small about this family let alone wedding so it’s bound to be a big thing.
I know I shouldn’t dog the gift opening. It can be a great thing. However, I know myself. And after a week of last-minute details and planning, after a full day of wedding festivities and a night of.. well, I have yet to describe the night. The last thing I will want to do in the morning is wake up, get all pretty and head home to socialize, again! I know I sound awful for thinking this outlound. But, it’s the truth!
Gift openings are so drab and carry on for ever. Or are they and do they really have to carry on f o r e v e r? after many conversations I know that it’s important for Z to have a gift opening. He loves the spotlight and opening gifts. So, why not let him take it all? It can be like a grooms shower of sorts?!
We’ve decided to have a gift opening but in our own way. No lingering guests for hours at end, no stuffy conversations, exhausted room of drab. No thank you. We will have a gift opening that is short-n-sweet. A filled house with bites and sips and we will survive – or rather, I will survive. We are keeping our gift opening short and sweet – or so we will see – by doing a few key things.
Time is of the essence.
Having the gift opening earlier rather than later will allow for your guests to visit and then be ready to leave when the first wave of energy wares of. People will be tired the next day. Not only start early but put an ending time on it. Stating specific times will let people know when to leave. All to often people linger because they are unsure if they can leave without being rude. By all means, leave!
Mimosas + Muffins.
You do not have to offer a three-course meal served on fine china. Honestly, you hosted everyone the night before. You are tired. Keep it simple. The less there is, the quicker it will be gone and the less likely people will feel they have something to linger around for.
No formal invite.
We just decided on doing a gift opening – 2 weeks out. It’s OK not to plan ahead on some things. You just need enough time for the host to prepare and plan accordingly. Letting others know with short notice will allow for wiggle room. Guests may have other plans and are unable to attend. That’s a-okay! Send grandparents a small invite – because they love that. Everyone else, let them know at the rehearsal dinner if it hasn’t come up in prior conversations.
Open gifts only.
Honestly, who likes to watch you open gift after gift? It’s all the same after a while. People get tired and are anticipating the nap that awaits them. Keep it short and simple. Open your gifts with gusts and save the envelopes for later between the two of you. Gifts are fun, money is, well not so much fun to be seen opened.
There you have it. The honest truth to what people think about gift openings and how to keep them short, simple and sweet. Yes, I did send out a small invite to grandparents and my BFOTB. But, that’s it. The rest of the crew will know at rehearsal dinner. The end. Those who come, come. Those who don’t, don’t. It is not the end of the world. I plan to sit back, sip a mimosa and let Z go to town in his glory of opening gifts.